Sexuality Rant

I want to write a little bit about sex today because I saw a friend post on Facebook freaking out about a Ted Talks that spoke about boys finding their way to pornography by the age of 10. My friend didn't want to post the Ted Talk on Facebook because of the 'Adult Content' of the talk and about how there are:

"young people on facebook and it really was a subject mater that needs parental approval"

Ok, maybe it is me being less religious, more liberal, or educated on the subject of sexuality and children, but I find this whole idea of freaking out about pornography and mature subjects being on Facebook ridiculous.

First of all, I haven't watched this Ted Talk, I am trying to get the friend to send me the link because I want to see what the whole talk is about. My first reaction though, is disgust. I don't understand why people freak out about their kids being sexual beings.

Now, let me make sure you understand:  
I don't think kids should be watching pornography.

 Got that? Ok, just making sure you don't think that I want to hand out a sex tape to every kid in America. I just don't think enough parents talk to their kids, and of those parents, most don't start early enough.

See, people have a huge misconception about sex and the development of their children into sexual beings. They think their kids blossom overnight into sexual beings. I see where this idea comes from. After all, I remember sex ed classes where I was told that one day my period would arrive and I would suddenly be a woman. Of course, then my period arrived and I was lucky that my dad was realistic about sex and warned me about waiting but staying safe if I didn't. I didn't wait long... but because my dad talked to me, I was ready for it and didn't get pregnant or get an STD or STI.

The problem is, my dad didn't start talking to me until I was 10, and I know a lot of other kid's parents who did the same. My situation was different in that, I KNEW what sex was from the time when I was 4... but I don't want to talk about that. My parents were forced into the conversation and then let it lag until I was 10, when it suddenly popped up again.

Most kids don't know what sex is and don't know where babies really come from until they are 10. The problem is that their bodies are still working and they are still interested. Babies masturbate (That's right... I said the M word). Little kids want to show each other what is in their pants at various stages in their life. Playing mommy and pretending to have a baby... if they don't know the names or mechanics, they still know that sex exists.

This blog turned into a little bit of an unorganized rant, but please be aware that your children know more than you think. Little boys (and little girls) may try to find pornography to have their questions and curiosity answered. 

Please talk to your children about sex. Be realistic about it. Don't tell them babies come from the cabbage patch or assume that because you tell them sex is for marriage that they will listen.

Don't let your baby end up with an incurable disease, or nasty infection, or on Teen Mom 15 because you refuse to believe that your sweet little one has sexual thoughts.